Will We Always Become Our Parents?

Scary thought- trust me, I know... Jarad and I were discussing if we would be like his parents, if or when (he says if, I say when) we get to that point in our lives together. I say no, we will not be like his parents and we will not be like mine. Though he is his father's son, and I am my mother's daughter... we also have other characteristics. He has the influence of his mother and I have the influence of my Dad. We are not them, we are ourselves. I'd like to think that the biggest difference, the best thing that Jarad and I could do for our relationship, is to be and stay, best friends.

I believe that is a choice you make with your spouse- you choose to be best friends and find hobbies or things that excite you together, that you can spend time doing together, or you choose to go your own ways, having separate friends and separate hobbies. Now, I have seen first hand relationships of both kinds and I respect both, I think they work differently for different people. However, I know myself well enough to know that I want to be best friends with the man I spend my life with, I want to share our hobbies, our circles of friends, and I want to share our time that we have.

I'd like to think that this can actually be a pretty easy thing to accomplish, especially with me because I'm very laid back and I love to try new things, thus there is no specific hobby that I require someone to join with me. There are things that I do, such as writing poetry, or reading books that I will always do and I hope that the person I end up with takes a little bit of interest in that, but those are things I do randomly and can do anywhere. Meaning, I can be outside camping on the river, or inside learning about nitro cars and I'll be happy, because I too want to take an interest in the things that excite the person I love.

So there it is, I want to be best friends with the man I spend my life with, and at one point in time... I was- Is it coming back, will he trust me to be his friend again? Well, I'm keeping my fingers crossed, and counting down days until warm weather!!! An overall more pleasant time of the year for us both. <3